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Marriage      

  What  is  marriage?

What  is  the  answer?

Does marriage counseling work?   Family or couples counseling?  A counselor experienced in couples, family, marriage and parenting effectiveness is available to answer your questions about counseling before you decide.

It is a good thing at any stage of a marriage to evaluate. Laurie Mendez is Licensed and Certified to Counsel administer Marriage Counseling through the Temperament Profile. Whether enhancing a good marriage, shoring up trouble spots, or endeavoring to heal serious problems, Marriage Counseling with the temperament analysis is a therapy format.

Couples, thinking about marriage, or parents needing a hand can benefit, families can heal and become closer!  If you or someone you know is considering marriage counseling with a christian counselor give us a call, we will be happy to answer your questions.

Many marriages are sad pictures of people fighting to have their own way, each determined to win over their opposition, others are in the same house but have different agenda's and constantly go their separate ways.  Lines of communication are non-existent or fuzzy at best.  We see new books coming out on the bookshelves; we see talk show after talk show trying to present new concepts and solutions to age-old problems.

Marriage is a close intimate union of two people.  When we look into what that really means we see that a union is an alliance, a grouping together for a specific purpose, a combination, a single whole made up of parts.  When we are joined together in matrimony, we make a merger of two separate entities into one.  The true concept of marriage is a sharing, a pulling together, and a melting together into the unity of one.  I am not suggesting that you become non-entities when you marry, but merely, that your focus is now geared for the good of and the promotion of the whole rather than for that of self.

The best scenario for any marriage is that there can be healing and wholeness brought to everyone in the home where at all possible.  Divorce, the alternative, carries many scars for all involved.  I urge you to make a conscious effort to improve the quality of your relationship.  Learn your strengths and weaknesses and how to compliment them, thereby building the strongest union possible

 It is vital that we gain insight into each other's motivations and characteristics to dissolve misunderstandings.  As you learn to appreciate yourselves and your partners' unique design, and begin to work toward meeting your respective temperament needs, you will be encouraged as you see positive changes. As you continue to evaluate, improve, and adjust, it will bring your marriage back into the arena it belongs.  Strive for unity.  

"Remember that a house divided falls, and great and complete is that fall!"

Perspective On Relationships

Do we even know what marriage is? What is the answer?

There are many different types of relationships, Which relationship are you dealing with?

Many of our marriages are sad pictures of people fighting to have their own way.

Let's take a look at how to restore love back in-to marriage:

• Take off pride and ego, so you'll be able to SEE what your marriage, (relationships), have become.
• Intimacy, or,  (In-To-Me-See)
• Listen to yourself when you speak to your loved one!
• Each person is probably determined to win over their opposition.
• Others are in the same house but have different agenda's and constantly go their separate ways. 
• Lines of communication are delivered as an attack!
• "Remember that a house divided falls, and great and complete is that fall!"
•  

Marriage is!

A close or intimate, (in-to-me-see), union of two people.   The true concept of marriage is  sharing, a holding  together, a melting together into unity. 

I am not suggesting that you become non-entities when you marry, but merely, that your focus is now geared towards   commitment. The promotion of the whole rather than for self.

Now, you ask , 'How do we do this?'

The best scenario:

• That there can be healing and wholeness brought to everyone in the home.  Divorce, the alternative, carries many scars for all involved.  I urge you to make a conscious effort to improve the quality of your relationship. 
• Learn your strengths and weaknesses and how to compliment them, thereby building the strongest union possible. 
• It is vital that we gain insight into each other's motivations and characteristics to dissolve misunderstandings. 
• As you learn to appreciate yourselves and your partners' unique design, and begin to work toward meeting your  temperament needs, you will be encouraged as you see positive changes.
• As you continue to evaluate, improve, and adjust, it will bring your marriage back into the arena it belongs. 
• Strive for unity.

It is a good thing at any stage of a marriage to evaluate yourselves with temperament analysis.  Whether enhancing a good marriage, shoring up trouble spots, or endeavoring to heal serious problems, the temperament analysis is a valuable asset.

Be Blessed,

Pastoral Counselor L. S. Mendez

Certified Temperament Therapist